The Emotional Impact of IVF and Infertility on Mental Health
The Emotional Impact of IVF and Infertility on Mental Health
** Content Contains- discussions on infertility and miscarriage**
According to the Fertility Network there are 3.5 million people in the UK facing fertility issues. For National Fertility Week this year the focus is on the impact of fertility issues have on mental health and wellbeing.
This year, Sara, Operations Manager at Inspire North wanted to write about fertility and IVF and its effects on mental health. Sara shares her personal experience with us and offers support and advice to anyone who is facing fertility issues.
Infertility is a deeply personal and often isolating struggle that affects millions worldwide. The journey through infertility and assisted reproductive technologies like in vitro fertilisation (IVF) can have significant impacts on mental health. I decided to write this blog because of my personal experience with both. Throughout the process, I found that by opening up and talking about my feelings, fears, and struggles, many others shared their own journeys with me, which significantly helped me navigate through it.
Infertility often brings with it a sense of grief and loss. Couples may grieve the loss of a natural conception, the anticipated timeline of their lives, or even the biological connection to a future child. These feelings can lead to a profound sense of sadness and emptiness, especially when those around us, including family and friends, start having their own children. The uncertainty and unpredictability of infertility treatments can create much anxiety. From the stress of undergoing invasive procedures to the anxiety of waiting for results, the entire process can be incredibly difficult. This constant state of stress can affect both physical and mental well-being.
Persistent feelings of sadness, hopelessness, and helplessness can develop into clinical depression. The emotional strain of infertility, combined with the hormonal fluctuations caused by fertility treatments, can exacerbate existing mental health conditions. In addition, infertility can put significant strains on relationships. Partners may experience differing emotions and coping mechanisms, leading to misunderstandings and conflicts. The pressure to conceive can overshadow other aspects of the relationship, causing intimacy issues and emotional distance. I remember times where the ‘mission’ seemed like the only important thing and was all consuming, with everything else in our lives seemingly put on hold.
IVF treatment itself involves a rollercoaster of emotions. The anticipation of each treatment cycle, the highs of hope, and the lows of disappointment can create an intense emotional journey. The repeated cycle of hope and despair can be exhausting and emotionally draining. IVF also has a high rate of miscarriage. Going through infertility, then the emotional and physical aspects of IVF and finally getting pregnant, only for it to end abruptly is considerably heart-breaking and impacts greatly on mental health.
IVF is not only emotionally taxing but also financially demanding. The high costs associated with treatment can add another layer of stress, especially if multiple cycles are required. Financial strain can exacerbate feelings of anxiety and depression, adding to the emotional burden. Many couples get into significant debt in their journey to parenthood. The UK has what is known as a ‘postcode lottery’ in terms of how many cycles the NHS will provide. Some areas have zero rounds available on the NHS, while others range up to 3. Many people pursuing IVF choose to pay privately due to the long wait times. Same-sex couples are typically expected to privately fund a series of artificial insemination attempts before being eligible for NHS funded IVF. And whilst the UK has made steps towards equality in the realm of reproductive healthcare, many couples may still experience discrimination and stigma when seeking fertility treatments. Such experiences can be emotionally draining and discourage couples from pursuing their dream of parenthood.
The physical demands of IVF, including hormone injections and surgical procedures, can take a toll on the body and mind. Hormonal treatments can lead to mood swings, irritability, and emotional instability. The physical side effects of these treatments can further impact mental health. The stigma and misunderstanding surrounding infertility and IVF can lead to social isolation. Many individuals and couples feel uncomfortable discussing their struggles with friends and family, leading to feelings of loneliness and isolation. This lack of social support can exacerbate feelings of depression and anxiety.
Coping mechanisms
These mechanisms are based on my own experience, and while there are undoubtedly many other methods, one effective way to seek support is by accessing professional help, such as consulting a specialist IVF therapist. If you are undergoing IVF treatment, many providers offer several free counselling sessions delivered by specialist fertility therapists.
There are also many online forums, podcasts and social media groups where you can connect with others who are going through similar experiences. Support groups provide a safe space to share feelings, gain insights, and receive emotional support. Online communities can also offer a safe space where you can be more anonymous if you are not openly sharing your journey with family and friends.
Grounding practices like yoga, meditation, and mindfulness can help reduce stress and anxiety. These mind-body approaches promote relaxation and emotional balance, making it easier to cope with the ups and downs of infertility treatments. There are also IVF mindfulness and meditation apps that have guided meditation sessions tailored to specific points for the IVF process.
Above all, prioritising self-care is essential during this emotionally taxing time. Engaging in activities that bring joy and relaxation, setting boundaries, and taking breaks from the stress of treatments can help maintain emotional well-being and ensure we are doing the most important thing…. being kind to ourselves ❤️
Inspire North has a Fertility and IVF policy that outlines the ways our organisation will support you if you are undergoing fertility treatments. You can find it here:
Fertility Treatment Support Policy (IVF) Policy (Please note this is for internal colleagues only)
Sara Squires, Operations Manager at Inspire North
National Fertility Week is 4th November- 8th November
For Fertility Week, FNUK is focussing on the impact fertility issues have on mental health and wellbeing. We are raising awareness about this and highlighting how we all have a part to play in supporting people on their fertility journey and helping them to look after their mental wellbeing.
That’s why this year’s theme is #FertilityinMind. We want to hear from you about your experiences, the support you need, and how we can work together on mental health and wellbeing.
Fertility Week: raising awareness, signposting support, and fundraising for our cause.
#FertilityInMind